UPDATE: Connected my Relay to 3.3v Pi Pin (Pin 1) instead of 5V and it work like it should, switching it on and off no problem. Not sure why maybe the voltage differential between 3.3v active high and 5v source is enough to trigger the relay?
Lol that hack with just gpio export 23 out and gpio export 23 in actually toggle the relay and i can hear a sounding "click" i am not sure i will continue on with this as i am not sure how reliable it will be. Something is wrong with my relay but i have two and all behaves the same. i am not sure how to continue with this problem.